Do you have friends or colleagues who are draining your energy? There is a word for them, namely “toxic” people. Most times, they’re judgmental, manipulative, and unreliable. They also tend to make a drama out of everything and negativity spreads around them.
Toxic people aren’t always aware of the impact they have on others. However, some act this way on purpose. The best thing you can do is to avoid them altogether.
What if a close friend or family falls into this category? Here are some handy tips on how to deal with the toxic people in your life:
Stop Pretending Everything Is Fine
Let’s say a colleague takes credit for your work or constantly asks you to do his job. Stop pretending that everything is ok to avoid an argument.
Speak up and express your honest opinion about the whole thing. Do it in a calm, rational manner. Tell your colleague that stealing your work is not okay and that you’ll discuss it with your superiors unless they take the steps needed to fix their behavior.
Ignore Toxic People
Toxic people often seek attention at all costs. They would do just about anything to get the attention they need. If you play by their rules, you will end up being the one hurt.
Focus on your priorities and ignore attention seekers. Unless your friend or colleague has a real problem, move on and let him handle the situation. You are not responsible for other people’s problems, and you don’t owe anything to anyone.
Fight Only When It’s Right
Toxic individuals are not worthy of your time. They either seek attention or refuse to take responsibility for their actions. Starting an argument with them is like talking to the walls.
Again, prioritize your needs and goals. Analyze the situation and then choose the best course of action. Fight only when it’s right to do so.
Communicate, But Don’t Engage
You might not always be able to avoid toxic people. After all, they are everywhere. Sometimes, you can’t ignore them.
If that’s your case, listen to what they have to say, but don’t engage in conversation. Keep things brief and pretend you have something else to do. Make them understand that your time is valuable.
Toxic people stress you out and spread negativity like wildfire. Their behavior affects your mental well-being as well as your productivity and physical health. Remember, it’s in your power to say No and eliminate the negativity in your life.